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18
Jun 2018
dating advice

The New Gold rush. There’s a money spinning industry which has crept up silently over the last 5 years or so and become central to the leisure time of most young people all over the globe; DATING. But not as your parents would know it, no, this is a brand new all consuming dating industry which can be compared to shopping. 30 years ago, most people would visit their local high street when they needed to specifically buy a pair of shoes or a frying pan. The trip would be over in......

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23
Mar 2018
Q and A: DATING ADVICE COLUMN

  Our dating coach & author of the Gay Dating Guide is waiting to answer your dating related questions. This exclusive service costs just £15 and your name will not be mentioned. Email your question to info @ urbanconnections.co.uk with Q&A in the subject.      ...

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02
Mar 2018
gay dating london

The sushi conveyor belt of gay dating. I liken the dating mentality of Gay Londoners to a sushi restaurant conveyor belt . If you don’t like the look of what’s in front of you, no problem, there’s another and another and another all queued up behind . But rather than taking the plate and trying the dish, they’re just sticking their finger in for a quick taste as it passes by, while they continue to sit there alone and single. What makes Gay Londoners think they have endless dating options and why......

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09
Dec 2017
Can a feminine man be attractive?

Gender Fluidity in the UK 2017 2017 will go down as a watershed in gender history. Teenagers are rejecting the binary choices of male or female, straight or gay. High street stores like John Lewis have removed boys and girls labels from their childrenswear department – everything is mixed together. Companies such as Channel 4 have installed gender neutral loos. Even Teresa May has announced new passports will no longer identify  the sex of the passport holder. There is some tangible progress which is occurring around the issues of gender and self......

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21
Oct 2017
gay dating advice blog

Definition of ghosting, from the Urban Dictionary: The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just “get the hint” and leave the subject alone. Any brave single soul who’s ever dared to dip a toe into the murky waters of dating has come across ghosting before. Whether you have been ghosted or you were, in fact, the ghoster, I liken this unpleasant experience to a big lorry cutting you up on a......

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04
Oct 2017
GAY SEX ADDICTION; THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM?

How many times have you heard a gay man saying it’s impossible to find a partner because most guys are just looking for sex? Whether this is true or not, with testosterone running riot in our systems, both gay and straight men are wired to think about sex every few seconds – without it less babies would be born and the human race may well disappear. But, us gays take it to the next level and that puts a big block on the road if your destination is Relationshipville. Aren’t all Gay......

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09
Sep 2017
THE GAY SCENE AND RELATIONSHIPS

Is the gay scene a good or bad thing for gay men who want to find a partner? Surely it makes sense to frequent the places where most gay men hang out if you are looking to meet a boyfriend? There are so many dance clubs, leather bars and phone apps full of sexy single gay guys, so it would seem the possibilities for meeting a partner are endless!  In reality things are not so clear. Is the grass always greener? Firstly, there are so many gay men ‘available’, especially in big cities, that......

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19
Jun 2017
DATING & THE TOP/ BOTTOM DEBATE

Many gay men identify with either a top or bottom role, which is fine; but, to what extent should a sexual position/role dominate chosing a potential partner? What if a bottom meets a sexy, intelligent, funny man who is compatible in every way, but it turns out he is also bottom. Is that a deal breaker straight away or can this be worked around? Most guys would probably not persue that relationship any further as sex is an important factor in a relationship (gay or straight) but could other options be explored?......

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19
Jun 2017
gay speed dating

A few months ago, I wrote an article about racism on the gay scene which caused quite a stir. I’m glad that many gay men questioned their attitudes (conscious or unconscious) towards gay men of colour. That awful phrase, which used to be so common online, ‘no fats/ no fems/ no asians’ has been outed as unacceptable. But I now want to examine the middle part of this line: no fems. Turn on Grindr and you will see phrases like ‘masculine for masculine/ I hate camp/ masculine men only‘. These are personal......

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08
May 2017
GAY REVOLUTION, NOT RACISM!

I call upon all gay men to start a revolution, but I don’t mean taking up arms and waving the rainbow flag in the face of straights down your high street. The revolution I want to start is among gay men themselves. I want to break the moulds which nobody really wants to talk about but which are holding our community back. I have been running gay dating events for longer than I care to remember and I quite regularly receive calls from prospective customers who want to attend but they are......

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